Our relationships determine the quality of our life. They are important. They help us to get ahead in life. I am talking about all forms of relationships, not just personal ones.
I am trying to think why I do not think I have many good relationships. This may be because when I form a relationship whether business or personal I trust the other person completely. I open myself to the person. My standards of what I expect from a person are very high. In return I adhere to these high standards.
What happens is most people do not see the relationships in such a way. Unless of course it is an intimate personal relationship.
When I am let down by a person and not meeting the high standard that I go out of my way to meet, that is it for me. I do not want anything to do with the person concerned. I move on.
There is no right or wrong in relationships. It was what is suited to people involved. Having said that may be I need to see various types of relationships at different levels – business, friend, intimate and personal.
No, I think honesty is very important for me. This is where my relationships break down. I am not saying I am a perfect being and I am always honest. They are rare times where I am not honest.
The crunch comes for me where on important issues a person is not honest. This tends to go into less important aspects as well. When this happens I just do not want to know the person.
On reflection in most cases I break off a relationship or just go cold on it is because of lack of honesty and trust.
My approach is not good for business or my personal life. People need people. Yet, I am too damn stubborn to change. I cannot. Everything in me does not want to change on this aspect.
I am my worst enemy. As I have mentioned before life does not offer neat solutions on big issues. This is one of my big issue.